Written by Ruby Heaton
When I say walking the fine line, I’m talking about the fine line of pride. I grew up lacking self-esteem because of the way I was raised. My upbringing caused me to be extremely shy. Friends often tell me, “Ruby you’re really smart.” Sometimes I feel like I can do anything and other times I still struggle. Many people teach on building up self-esteem. While we must know who we are and what we are capable of, here is where the line can get confusing. We should be confident, but not overly confident. We should obtain knowledge and wisdom, while recognizing that our ability to obtain that knowledge and wisdom comes from God. We should take chances, yet tread carefully. We should let others know our strengths so we can assist, but not sound haughty. While we shouldn’t boast or be full of pride, we do need confidence to be bold. God’s word tells us to be bold and to have no fear. Proverbs 28:1 The wicked flee when no one is pursuing, but the righteous are bold as a lion. We need confidence to do many things, if not all, and we must present ourselves well.
I once introduced an acquaintance to a Pastor. What should have been a quick introduction dragged on as my friend listed all of his accomplishments, what he had done in the past, and his current endeavors. Not only was it not the proper time, it sounded a lot like bragging. The Pastor finally changed the subject, gently. I felt very uncomfortable about the whole situation, as I’m sure the Pastor did too. Later that day I wondered how many times I may have sounded like that when I only wanted to convey that I was qualified to help or teach.
There is a time to share, a certain amount to be shared, and it needs to be shared in the proper way. I forget who said this but I love it: Stay little in your own eyes. While we may indeed “stay little in our own eyes” it may look different to others. Maybe we want to connect or fit in so we say too much and it sounds like we think too much of ourselves. Maybe we have just won an award or accomplished something we really wanted to do, so we’re super excited about it and we come across wrong. Perhaps we are getting too big in our own mind and our heads no longer fit through the church doors. We should always go to God and ask Him to check us and make our motives clear to us. Sometimes we are the last to see what is going on with ourselves.
Join me in a prayer so we can make sure we stay in the right place.
God forgive us for anything that we thought, said, or did that wasn’t pleasing to you. Father help us to always see ourselves through Your eyes and help us to present ourselves as you would have us. Not as the world wants us to be, or family and friends think we should be, or even as we suppose we should be. Help us to be more Christ-like. Remove any wrong ideas and mindsets. Give us clarity and fill us with your wisdom. Help us to never try to take your glory. Give us wisdom and strength for each day and every situation we encounter. In Jesus name we ask. Amen